By accepting yourself and each day you get a better understanding of who you truly are. how you have let society's cultural mores influence you as to what you believe you SHOULD want versus what you TRULY want. It's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. You cannot find what you truly desire until you release the fear of not being accepted by others.
You are depending on others to tell you what you want versus allowing time for the real truth to make itself visible.